Daddyhood Diaries

When you think of a parenting, the main puzzle that hits the head is how great your partner will be in the ballgame. For women across cultures and continents, fixation with the concept of an ideal husband-turned-daddy is very dominant. Not just this, but the fact that women need understanding, pampering and frequent appreciation, is of significance when we think and speak of parenting. 

Yet when it comes to men, their macho image makes them appear less prone to expect appreciation. The ugly truth lies in the fact that men have a soft edge to their tough coat. The trick to a happy parenting phase is keeping your husband happy and by taking time out to express what he means for you. Men have a boyish charm hidden and their expectations too remain very boyish even as they turn older—and a father too.

A for Appreciation and Acceptance

Womankind needs to understand that men take a lot of time making an effort. While choosing a gift for your kid on the go is a cakewalk for women, husbands find it taxing to pick one. Never undermine his choices. Make sure you plan surprises and take time out to show him how you love his gift.

Plan Your Life Together

Even as we say this, it in no way means that the career woman of today has no mental independence. However, once you begin to think of your financial freedom as a ticket to do anything that pleases ONLY you, you tend to drift away from your spouse. Make personal goals and professional targets in a way that both of you are in the same lane. Women need to respect their male halves given that the latter find being ignored as a mark of disrespect. Yes, the quintessential male ego exists! However, it comes to the forefront only when his better half hurts him by being selfish or unbothered about his feelings.

Ask For His Opinion

Be it the latest dress you buy for your kid or the biggest investment-buy for the baby, involve your hubby in your life as much as you can. The best and easiest way to appreciate him is to make him feel important enough that his opinion matters. While we do not suggest being a robot awaiting his nod for each bit in life, small and big decisions can be taken together. Not only does this make a man feel worthy, it also makes parenting a wonderful institution where two souls find their perfect solace.

Take Time Out Understanding His Anger

Men might get irritated and more disoriented than a woman will, due to stresses of parenting. Make sure you communicate well with him and sideline your impulsive anger. Instead of criticising him, try to give him space to normalise. While you do not need to compromise on anything, you can do much more than bicker. Cajole him and make him feel that you are going to stand by him forever.

Once you make your man feel that he is a huge part of your world, your relationship, post-having kids will be rock solid. Go ahead and solidify your bond.

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Men today have become much more than simple bread-earners and even take-offs to be with their baby. “Is this real?” most moms would ask! Society here still has a chauvinistic way to flit around when it comes to making with a man. However, “Times, they are a changin’”, and I have met at least a bunch of husbands who are proud fathers doting on their kids while being happily-responsible about the latter’s upbringing.

Daddy-hood Is About More Involvement

• The best moments when a dad feels his daddy-hood is amid the mess of changing a nappy. There is no replacement to the thought that the life he has created is breathing happily as he fiddles with cleaning the little munchkin up! Feeding is also something a dad can help with is helping with the bottles gives mommy the much-needed break. However, there is not much a man cannot do.

• The age-old theory that managing the baby is a mom’s responsibility has faded. The new age couple has rather made a pact when the wife is not relegated to a mom’s roles post-pregnancy. The best bit here is that this helps the couple build a much stronger bond. There is less of irritation, more of pampering and better bonds that stem.

• Allowing your wife to take a break from making dinner, showing some love for her and taking the child out for a stroller ride as she calls her friend’s home—there is so much a daddy can do to take care of the kid effectively.

Even from a deeper perspective, daddies contributing to more effective parenting help in better brain development of the child. This creates a sort of trust and dependence with the father from the kids’ end too.

Fathers Teach Different Things

The best part about hubbies helping with kids is that babies and kids always have better self-control when with the dads. Dads parent differently. They turn crazy, jump around and rough up playtime too. Moreover, the communication of a daddy is more direct and little low on emotion. This makes the child mentally alert. Moreover, when daddies manage kids, there is a coherence and harmony part of households that you HAVE to salute.

The bit to always remember is that being helpful when it comes to sharing a child’s responsibility does not mean that you need to stay at home always. It does not challenge gender roles. We simply are out to make you realise that being a happy parent comes from both ends. Knowing just THIS MUCH will truly motivate a dad to know how involved he MUST get.

With changing scenarios, I have observed how involved parenting with hubbies balancing home, kids and work leave more time for fun and frolic — in addition to HAPPIER KIDS!

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